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November 28, 2013 / ljbradburn-Smith

Don’t mess with the system

When I started going out with Ben we soon realised that there was a major difference in how we lived our lives. I lived mine in a kind of “things (clothes, shoes, bags, gloves) stay where they land” and like to be free kinda way. I wouldn’t put up with being hung from a peg or shoved in a wardrobe so why should they? Whereas Ben lived his life in a “pants get ironed” kinda way.

Since we have been living together these differences of opinion regarding where clothes live has resulted in a few minor scuffles and Ben observing that the way I take my shoes and clothes off, and leave them where I was standing, makes it look like people have melted all around the house.

So I suppose I can’t blame him for being surprised when, after three years of living in relative disharmony, he recently tried to put something on my bookshelf that wasn’t a book and I got a bit annoyed. I’m sure I said something like “darling would you mind not putting that there please” but apparently I pulled a face and wasn’t quite as polite as that (I will leave you to decide whose story you believe).

When he asked why, I admitted that I don’t like people messing with my books and I liked them to be organised and tidy. When I explained that I had a system and categories (and that the real reason I had put his books together, on one shelf, was not just out of consideration for him but mainly so my system wasn’t infiltrated) he looked at me in disbelief as if he didn’t believe I was capable of such a thing. It was like my opposite-of-dirty little secret had been revealed and he felt like he didn’t know me anymore.I think I may have actually seen a tear leak slowly out of the corner of his eye (too far?).

As you can imagine I hated seeing him doubt me and so I was quick to reassure him that it didn’t mean anything, it was just one thing, it wasn’t going to change our relationship and I was most certainly not going to start taking out the bins.


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  1. calmgrove / Dec 5 2013 4:01 pm

    Very good, Lydia, I’m with you on this!

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